On Friday, I was busy with my work, filling up some application for JNU, and NEUPA with my friends; suddenly one call came to my friend 'will you join for seminar' I was without much thinking told him, 'yes'. I was busy and coming day morning he came to my room waking me up to go for seminar. We were five us total, went to Puducherry; I was confused always what will be the topic for seminar, I ask my friends, they did reply me, just told me; it is based on women issues as the occasion of 'Women Day special' but when we reach there we come to know the topic "Men for Women understanding gender equally'.
The seminar was held for two to three hours followed by scrumptious food and there were close to two hundred participant. In seminar there were panelist to discuss on 'Men for women - Understanding Gender, Equally' and it was organised by Indian Women Network, an initiative taken by Confederation of Indian Industry.
In this Penal discussion, one of the heart- touching spoke person was none other than VC Bashir Ahmad Khan who called for change in mindset and the flawed belief system in our society that demean women. Later he put forward the argument saying 'it important to understand gender equality but not talking about family-oriented values; we still grappling with old ideas which need to change in mind set and belief systems to perpetuate gender equality'. And it was fascinating because men had to talk about women in their lives but Khan put 'I am not going to talk about my role for success of my wife- it is the other way round'.
But I will talk it from the lay men or subaltern scenario, see if we talk women and men, whatever you call balancing or making equilibrium or bringing equality with regards to jobs, opportunity and others. And looking the celebration of women day in grand manner, having organized by elite the power, position and authority holder, yes they can talk about 'successes' in their lives. Some tells we celebrate women days every day each minutes of our lives; what about those who are marginalized groups women, tribal women, peasant women, dalit women who don't hold power, position and authority; are they not succeed in their own way and maintain balance between men and women gender equality, like these lot of question arise.
If you ponder over the past in tribal, dalit, peasant society; there is gender equality which exists because both work balance and gender equality is seen, they don't make distinguish men vs women, boys vs girls rather they always try to make equal; don't make me mistake I am not talking about opportunity, jobs or education, it is the work balance which we can find in those society.
I am critical about this seminar because it was conducted for women of upper/orthodoxy (mean hegemonic powerful class) elites in their outlook, can afford time as leisure class, they belong to conspicuous consumption groups. It was surprising and annoying because introduction to this event make it clear that 'there are many women who are not privilege because they don't know and not invited' yes because you didn't invited them to be part of you, denied them, you don't them to come up in their social, economic and education status.
How can you tell, there are not present because you selected the groups, class, of your choice those who are of power, position, authority in visible success of recognition, you left out those invisible success of those marginalized and vulnerable groups of women, who also recognize as women, as human being, you betray them from equating or balancing between rich and power, educated and uneducated in different dimension. I will be really grateful if this kind of inequality is set out or erase from society in which all women come in one fold and all men come in one fold balancing as human of both men and women.
In this Penal discussion, one of the heart- touching spoke person was none other than VC Bashir Ahmad Khan who called for change in mindset and the flawed belief system in our society that demean women. Later he put forward the argument saying 'it important to understand gender equality but not talking about family-oriented values; we still grappling with old ideas which need to change in mind set and belief systems to perpetuate gender equality'. And it was fascinating because men had to talk about women in their lives but Khan put 'I am not going to talk about my role for success of my wife- it is the other way round'.
But I will talk it from the lay men or subaltern scenario, see if we talk women and men, whatever you call balancing or making equilibrium or bringing equality with regards to jobs, opportunity and others. And looking the celebration of women day in grand manner, having organized by elite the power, position and authority holder, yes they can talk about 'successes' in their lives. Some tells we celebrate women days every day each minutes of our lives; what about those who are marginalized groups women, tribal women, peasant women, dalit women who don't hold power, position and authority; are they not succeed in their own way and maintain balance between men and women gender equality, like these lot of question arise.
If you ponder over the past in tribal, dalit, peasant society; there is gender equality which exists because both work balance and gender equality is seen, they don't make distinguish men vs women, boys vs girls rather they always try to make equal; don't make me mistake I am not talking about opportunity, jobs or education, it is the work balance which we can find in those society.
I am critical about this seminar because it was conducted for women of upper/orthodoxy (mean hegemonic powerful class) elites in their outlook, can afford time as leisure class, they belong to conspicuous consumption groups. It was surprising and annoying because introduction to this event make it clear that 'there are many women who are not privilege because they don't know and not invited' yes because you didn't invited them to be part of you, denied them, you don't them to come up in their social, economic and education status.
How can you tell, there are not present because you selected the groups, class, of your choice those who are of power, position, authority in visible success of recognition, you left out those invisible success of those marginalized and vulnerable groups of women, who also recognize as women, as human being, you betray them from equating or balancing between rich and power, educated and uneducated in different dimension. I will be really grateful if this kind of inequality is set out or erase from society in which all women come in one fold and all men come in one fold balancing as human of both men and women.
